Ever had big emotions that you just didn't want to feel? No matter how hard you try to avoid them, ignore them, sleep through them, distract yourself with TV or social media, or numb them with alcohol, food, drugs... they still remain.
It's so important to allow ourselves to feel these feelings - even when they may cause us to hurt so badly.
"Unexpressed emotions will never die. They are buried alive and will come forth in uglier ways" - Sigmund Freud
The more we practice opening ourselves up to our emotions (particularly those uncomfortable ones) we build emotional resilience. By accepting our emotions rather than fighting against them or bottling our feelings up, we can move forward.
Acceptance is not always easy. In accepting our emotions in difficult times we are not saying we are happy about what is happening, but in many cases these situations are out of our control. So why fight against ourselves?
Just remember - our emotions do not define us. They are separate from who we are. They come and go like seasons, like waves. With regular practice we can learn to ride the waves and feel more at peace within ourselves.
Take a moment. Acknowledge how your are feeling. Name the emotion. What are you feeling physically? What are you thinking? Is the situation one that you can change or is it out of your control? This reflective process can be completed either as an internal conversation or written down on paper.
Allow yourself to fall apart, so that you can rebuild even stronger than you were before.
Only when we feel the full force of pain, hurt and sadness, can we too feel the warm and comforting depths of love, true happiness, and pure joy.
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